MYSTERY OF LOVE

MYSTERY OF LOVE

It is a mystery why we fall in love.

It is a mystery how it happens.

It is a mystery when it comes.

It is a mystery why some love grows

and it is a mystery why some love fails.

You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons

and causes, but you will never do anymore than

take the life out of the experience.

Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones

and muscles and electrical impulses in the body.

Love is more than the sum of the interests and

attractions and commonalties that two people share.

And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own

time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an

unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.

Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life the

gift of love will come to you in full flower, and you

will take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty.

This is the dream we all share.

More often, it will come and take hold of you,

celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on.

When this happens to young people, they too often

try to grasp the love and hold it to them,

refusing to see that it is a gift that is freely given and

a gift that just as freely moves away.

When they fall out of love, they feel the spirit of love leaving

then try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost

rather than accept the gift for what it was, then moving on.

They want answers where there are no answers.

They want to know what is wrong in them

that makes the other person no longer love them,

or they try to get their lover to change,

thinking that if some small things were different,

love would bloom again.

They blame their circumstances and say

that if they go far away and start a new life together,

their love will grow.

They try anything to give meaning to what has happened.

But there is no meaning beyond the love itself,

and until they accept its own mysterious ways;

they live in a sea of mystery.

You need to know this about love, and accept it.

You need to treat what it brings you with kindness.

If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you,

be gentle with yourself.

There is nothing wrong with you.

Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and

you don't love him, feel honored that love came and called

at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return.

Do not take advantage; do not cause pain.

How you deal with love is how you deal with you,

and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys,

even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you,

and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it

or to assess blame.

Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning.

You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love.

Love chooses you.

All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery

when it comes into your life,

Feel the way it fills you to overflowing,

then reach out and give it away.

Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.

Give it to others who you deem poor in spirit.

Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

This is where many lovers go wrong.

Having been so long without love,

they understand love only as a need.

They see their hearts as empty places

that will be filled by love, and

they begin to look at love as something

that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as

their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need.

They cease to be someone who generates love and

instead become someone who seeks love.

They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift,

and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it in your heart.

Love has its own time, its own seasons,

and its own reason for coming and going.

You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying.

You can only embrace it when it arrives and

give it away when it comes to you.

But if it chooses to leave from your heart or

from the heart of your lover,

there is nothing you can do and

there is nothing you should do.

Love always has been and will always be a mystery.

Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.

If you keep your heart open, it will come again.